I’m Here to Stay – The Voice of Menopause

First session on Grief & Menopause ( 30 mins)

In the first session we touched upon how I had not been able to process the grief that came with cancer, and there was a lot of it.

We started the session by tapping on my frustration about the medicines and how the induced menopause was making me feel.

After tapping on it, Jade asked, "If the menopause had a voice then what would it say?" (Often times asking the body part how it feels or giving it a voice helps.)

We tapped on my answer:

"Even though It’s unfair, I'm willing to sit with it."

What came up was,

"This menopause has been imposed on me"

"Feels like I’m giving away my authority to the doctors who are prescribing medicines"

After several rounds on this upon testing, what came up was:

“I’m here to stay.”

So we tapped on

I’m here to stay, and Jade added a practitioner reframe which landed well - We can call a truce.

Then we tapped on the cognitive shift.

“Let me make peace with it. Let’s coexist.”

It felt very relieving to say this. It gave me strength.

The session was closed by doing some rounds of silent tapping.

Second session on Grief ( 30 mins)

We began the session by inquiring about my grief. Jade gently opened the session by asking,

“What are you noticing about your grief today? “

I showed him the doodle I had sketched a day before.

Image of a girl with light around her and light blue colour around it.

He asked me what I was seeing in the image.

I said, “I feel something around me, something blackish and bluish in this painting"

He asked me to check about my willingness to sit with it.

I said that, I'm using positivity to push it away.  Pushing away the grief.

We started tapping on this. Jade was gently guiding me through the sequence of points with some phrases from what I was noticing in the image/painting.

Jade asked, “Is there any part of you that feels that it doesn’t want the grief? “

I said, “Yes, a part of me fears the grief”

We did a few rounds of just touching the points and saying:

“This part that fears the grief”

Then Jade asked,

“What are you noticing right now?”

Tapped on:

“I see a trickle of blue paint over the yellow area.”

“This trickle of blue”

“I can see it’s grief.”

“This trickle of grief” we stayed with this for 2 rounds.

Jade intuitively added a few words to weave the sentences together and that made the tapping land really well, and made the phrases even more meaningful.

"What are you noticing right now?"

We tapped on:

“I’m letting it come down.”

“Getting more bluish, black is fading.”

“Now the top portion of the streak of paint is dry and bottom is wet.”

“Streak of blue on the yellow.”

“What’s that sense of grief right now?"

Tapped on:

“I can see two things, a wash of dark blue on right and light blue on left.”

“Feels like a wave of grief is trying to engulf me but the light is containing it.”

We tapped on the cognitive shift that came up.

“I’m not scared anymore, maybe a tiny bit. I want it to wash over me.

I no longer feel that it’ll engulf me.

Then we did some silent rounds of tapping staying on a few points keeping the sketch of the girl in my mind.

Jade asked,

“If there was a message in the grief what would it be?”

“I can see a message in bold letters”

Stay with how the words feel for you.

“It’s in bold black letters.”

We tapped on:

“I’m here to stay in bold black letters.”

"And that’s okay."

I felt the grief washing over me but it didn’t feel uncomfortable. Felt the steady flow over my body and I allowed it to stay without judgment. Jade expertly guided me in this process.

We closed the session with some gentle touch and breathe.

These two sessions helped me get in touch with grief in a contained manner. Due to the gentle art of delivery skills (advanced L3 skills) that Jade used, I was able to process some grief without getting overwhelmed by it.

This is the reason I encourage everyone to get the experience of being in the client’s seat, at the receiving end. Complex and deep seated issues need a skilled EFT practitioner’s guidance to help us process the emotions that accompany them. A safe space, a trauma informed approach, and lots of guided tapping make these sessions very transformative.

Thank you Jade.