Uncertainty makes us anxious and worried.
When we are faced with an uncertain future then we invest even more strongly in making our vision of a perfect future come true. “We tell ourselves everything will be okay, just as long as I can reach this projection of the future”( Burkeman)
We fear uncertainty so much that we go to extraordinary lengths to get rid of it. Instead we can to do the following to deal with uncertainty:
- Increase your tolerance for things that are uncertain. “ I can’t control everything and that is okay”
- Surrendering to it – there are some things than are bigger than you. “ This is bigger than me and it is okay”
- Trusting the universe/God/whatever you believe in, to keep you safe in uncertain times.
- ‘See what happens’ is a better reframe for living life than waiting for the perfect opportunity. See where life takes you. Deal with whatever comes up. Is the worst loss, if you failed, tolerable? If it is then that’s all you will need to know. Take the next step and the next.
Uncertainty is where things happen. It is where the opportunities for success, for happiness, for really living – are waiting (Burkeman, 2013)
Here’s a book recommendation for you
The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking
By Oliver Burkeman