Our present and future is always coloured by our past. As Joe Dispenza says and even neuroscience suggests, if you keep thinking the same thoughts, then the same neural patterns will get strengthened, the same neurons will fire and wire together. So when we keep reviving our past and the strong emotions associated with it, the body keeps getting into extended periods of stress. The body cannot differentiate between real and imagined event. Hence when we keep narrating or retelling the same stories in our head throughout the day, the body stays in that stressful mode.
Example, if you’ve been cheated by someone in the past, and very frequently you think about how bad that experience was, the body experiences the same emotions over and over again, the same neurons fire and wire. This becomes a habitual pattern where negative events will stick to us and positive ones will slide by easily.
That’s where EFT comes in. When you work on specific episodes with tapping, the narration is done in a structured manner where every crescendo of the story is tapped upon. This sends deactivating signals to the amygdala and the neural connections for that story are weakened. This changes how you feel about your past, which in turn creates a feedback loop and new thoughts and feelings are generated about the past that aren’t stressful to the body. Acceptance and being able to let go create a calmer physiology.
A short excerpt from Joe Dipenza’s interview.
“Become conscious of your negative thoughts.
People have a habit of clinging to the familiar and the known. Most of the times we’re not even aware of what we’re thinking. Observe the thoughts. You will feel uncomfortable and will want to distract yourself. Any kind of change requires becoming uncomfortable to some degree.
Changing your thoughts consciously on a daily basis is needed.” You can see the full interview here https://youtu.be/ereahWKwNV8
Here are some tips and suggestions
- If you’re going through a tough time, take it slow. Choose a few methods that work for you and practice them regularly. Start with a practitioner or attend a workshop to understand the methods properly and then apply them on yourself.
- Always accept how you feel. Burying or acting upon feelings don’t help.
- Taming your thoughts takes time. Changing the critical inner voice to an encouraging one takes time – have compassion for yourself.
- Taking responsibility for what happened in the past doesn’t mean that you deliberately created that experience and you need to blame yourself for it. When you take responsibility, you operate from place of power instead of victimhood and that brings about changes. You stop blaming others for everything and decide to work on what you can do about the situation. All this becomes easier with EFT.